Published
August 20, 1981. It is common knowledge that behind
every successful man there is a conscientious wife and a surprised
mother-in-law. And there may be more truth in this statement when we realize,
particularly about the conscientious wife.
Not long ago I was interested that wives of corporate
executives at a nationally known company in Chicago asked the company for an
annual salary of over $25,000 for themselves. The wives claimed that if they
did not provide the support necessary for their husband, the corporate
executives would not be as effective on the job. In addition, they would have
to pay over $25,000 to someone else to do what wives do for husbands.
It is something to think about. Does a company actually
employ the services of both husband and wife, even if only one gets a paycheck?
Another trend indicating the importance of wives in
husbands’ employment is the recruiting patterns. Most recruiters want to meet
the spouse of a potential employee. This is to see how she feels about her
husband’s possible employment with the company. Because wives do play a major
part in a husband’s success, many corporations have wives’ clubs and social
events for spouses indicating that wives must be satisfied in order for her
husband to be productive on the job.
The entire family’s impact on employment is also evident,
since many large companies now hire marriage and family therapists on a
full-time basis to counsel with an employee and his or her family members.
Marital and family turmoil can greatly affect an employee’s morale. If
counseling is not provided by the company, many organizations will now pay for
all or part of the counseling fee as part of the insurance plan or employee
benefits.
And with more and more married women gainfully employed, it
is probably true that a husband’s support, or lack of it, can greatly influence
her work as well.
Sooner or later most husbands will come to the realization that
much of what he accomplishes in life can be attributed to his wife. But then
most wives have known that for years.
I like the advice of Jerome Chodorov who said to wives “I’ll
tell you the real secret of how to stay married. Keep the cave clean. They
(husbands) want the cave clean and spotless. Air conditioned, if possible.
Sharpen his spear, and stick it in his hand when he goes out in the morning to
spear the bear.
“And when the bear chases him, console him when he comes
home at night. Tell him what a big brave man he is. And then hide the spear so
he doesn’t fall over it and stab himself.”
Some may think that “Keeper of the Spear” is a minor role in
society today. Apparently, many wives and corporate presidents do not think so.
It was Mark Beltaire who observed, “A happy wife sometimes has the best
husband, but more often makes the best of the husband she has.”
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