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January 25, 1986. During the school year 1984-85, our
oldest son Doug was a senior at Orem High School. He and his grandmother, Alice
Day, got along well because he was her first grandson. We knew Doug was
planning to go on an LDS mission during the summer of 1986. And we didn’t know
if Grandma Day, then 84, would be well enough to travel in 1986. So we arranged
for Susan, Doug, Grandma, and myself to take a trip together during the summer
of 1985.
Grandma Day had never been out of
the United States. Since I was going to be in Great Britain that summer, we
planned for Doug, Susan, and her mother to meet me in London in July. From
there we planned a five-day trip to Ireland, where some of Grandma Day’s
ancestors, the O’Neals, had come from.
Doug had saved some money, and so
had Grandma Day. Susan and I decided we
would have to wait to finish the landscaping around our new home. But Doug and
Grandma would probably remember a trip to Ireland together long after they
would remember what kinds of shrubs and trees we had planted in our yard.
But in February, Grandma Day became
ill, just four months before our trip. Early one morning about 2:00, I drove
her to the hospital in American Fork. On the way she said, “Brent, I don’t
think I’m going to make it this time.” I said, “Grandma, you can’t die until
you go to Ireland this summer.” She smiled as one only can when in pain and
said, “OK.”
We really didn’t know what was
keeping Grandma alive, but she pulled through the sickness. So we went to the
British Isles for 13 days. Most of the time Grandma could walk with her crutch,
but we took along Uncle Ernie’s wheelchair for the times when she got tired.
The trip was worth every dime. You
can’t always measure value with dollars. For us, it was particularly worth it
to see Doug and Grandma spend some time together before he left.
Unknown to us, Grandma had another
goal after her trip to Great Britain. She wanted to live long enough to see
Doug leave on his mission. He would turn 19 in April 1986, so we knew his call
would come sometime in early spring. It did. He was to serve in Guatemala and
enter the Missionary Training Center in Provo in June. Then, in August, he would
leave for Guatemala City.
Grandma Day didn’t say much during
the summer. She attended Doug’s farewell and sat on the stand by him. They said
goodbye the day before he went to the MTC. But we all knew that wasn’t the real
goodbye; we would all have one more on August 6th at the airport. So
would Grandma Day.
His eight weeks at the MTC passed quickly.
Then came August. We got Uncle Ernie’s wheelchair again and wheeled Grandma
into the airport waiting rooms. There were lots of other missionaries and
families there all waiting to bid farewell. We finally got our turn to tell our
son goodbye. Grandma waited. She wanted to be last. It was time for Elder Doug
Barlow and Grandma Day to say goodbye.
And they did. I will never forget
it. The tall young man in his dark brown suit leaned over and put his arms
around his grandmother in the wheelchair. She put her arms around him and they
cried. So did we. They hugged each other for a long time. Then the final
boarding call came, and Doug left.
Once the door to the plane closed,
we started to walk away. But Grandma wanted to stay and watch the plane take
off. So we stayed and watched. And Grandma cried some more. No one said much.
No one had to.
This was the first Christmas for us
to have a son or daughter away from home. Doug has been away six months. A few
days ago, I was over at Grandma Day’s house. I went out to the woodshed to get
her some wood.
When I came in, she asked how much
it would cost to fly to Guatemala. I said I didn’t know but would find out.
Then she said, “If I can live long enough, I would like to save some money to
fly down and meet Doug when he gets off his mission.”
I’ve checked the airlines for the
price of a ticket. I almost made a reservation for June, 1988. I think Grandma
Day will be ready to go. It’s a long time from now, and she is now 85 years
old. But she’ll probably make it. You see, I now know what keeps Grandma Day
going.
Merry Christmas to everyone who has
loved ones. Life truly offers many precious moments . . . many of which we
share at this time of year.
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